Thirty Threadbare Mercies is where I write about my life, with a focus on parenting and culture.

A few of my most popular posts:

Radical Body Acceptance

Talking to Your Kids About Race

Together We’ll Wreak Havoc You And Me

Why I Am Not Renewing My Vogue Subscription

Fear Is Your Friend: On Not Overparenting

1 Comments on “Blog”

  1. Hi Rhea,

    I recently read your article on The Bold Italic, “Your Curiosity About My Bi-Racial Child…” It was an interesting read and I enjoyed hearing a mother’s perspective on the subject. I’m bi-racial and so are my children, making them second generation multi-racial kids. My husband and I, as well as our friends, who have just about every combination of multi-racial children you can imagine, have just begun calling them future people. Because contrary to whatever dumb ass comment that person made to you on the street in San Francisco, your daughter, IS the future, and thank God, no longer a rarity.

    My father was black, my mother white. They got married just 5 years after it was legal for them to do so. My brother and his wife, who is also bi-racial, have two beautiful children who are both lighter in skin color than either of their parents (a constant source of conversation on the street). My 10 year old niece, my brother’s youngest, has the blue-grey eyes and blond afro that so frequently stops traffic. I have had A LOT of experience over the years with comments about multi-racial children and their appearance from white communities…and black ones too, and I want to tell you you’re doing a great job. Your daughter will clearly benefit from your awareness, intelligence, and integrity.

    As I am sure you know, we’ll never get around the role that race has played in building and shaping our country and communities, for better or for worse, but I really truly believe we are headed in the right direction. It’s also less and less unusual for people to encounter someone who looks like you daughter or mine, be it on a Cheerios commercial or the person next door. I hope you’ll continue to not be afraid to have these conversations about race, because while it is not your job to educate people, your daughter will learn from your example and eventually be able to totally advocate for herself and lead a conversation about race and multi-racial families on her own.

    Not sure this message will get to you as I can’t claim to have every really “commented” on a blog, but I felt compelled to reach out as I’m so interested in this subject and living it every day. And lastly….girl, you gotta move to Oakland! We’ll be waiting for you when you get here. 😉

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